Years have brought numerous expressions that highlight this trait as a sign of weakness…’Empty vessels make the most noise’ was a statement I grew up with, so much so it is part of language.
Sometimes I ask God to put his hand over my mouth, to learn humility and patience to deal with those whose mouths run as though there is no safety valve on a water main.
Trinidad and Tobago is a society famous for a nation that likes to ‘maco’ (get involved in,eavesdrop,ask about other peoples lives,business etc). It is the norm to see curtains discreetly pushed aside as a face pops out to see who come to visit who across the street, what time the neighbour got home, who works where etc.
An old friend in passing said to me ‘..once you have a drop of Trini blood in you ,its other peoples business and bachannal on yuh mind’.
We all have that friend, the one who knows what is going on before the rest of the circle does, who can tell you what you are going to do before it gets done.
While it brings a unique and flavourful twist to friendship and life its important to remember that which has been proven time and time again, regardless creed, colour and race, those who gossip with you, will gossip without you….don’t make the mistake to believe you can break the mould or be the exception.
Spend more time focusing on you, than others around you, give and it will come back to you, karma if you want to call it that WILL deal with all those who feign humility yet live in hypocrisy.